Blog Posts
11. 13. 2025
Understanding OCD and What it Really Is
We often hear people say, “I’m so OCD” when describing a preference for neatness or order. But for those who truly live with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), it’s far more complex and painful than a desire for cleanliness or control. OCD can take up hours of someone’s day, create deep emotional distress, and interfere with the relationships, goals, and the life that they want to live.
What OCD Really Looks Like
OCD is like having an overly-sensitive smoke detector in your brain altering you to a fire, even when there isn’t one. When someone has OCD, their brain and body reacts as if the fire or danger is real, and goes into action through obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors in effort to mitigate the threat. This temporarily relieves the anxiety, but reinforces the OCD cycle.
This could look like:
Repeatedly checking if doors are locked or appliances are off, replaying conversations in your head, seeking constant reassurance about health, relationships, or morality, obsessing about harm, contamination, or “bad” thoughts, mentally reviewing events or praying to feel “just right”.
How Therapy Helps
OCD is treatable. Therapy for OCD interrupts the cycle of reacting to the “fire alarm”. With the right support, people learn to step outside the cycle of fear and compulsion, rediscover their sense of self, and reconnect with what truly matters to them.
Repeatedly checking if doors are locked or appliances are off, replaying conversations in your head, seeking constant reassurance about health, relationships, or morality, obsessing about harm, contamination, or “bad” thoughts, mentally reviewing events or praying to feel “just right”. OCD can often show up in pregnancy or postpartum periods.
If You’re Struggling
OCD can be al consuming. Maybe you’re constantly “in your head” and unable to be present and enjoy life. Maybe you are shut down or irritable due to the overwhelming stress that you feel internally.
If OCD or intrusive thoughts are taking over your life, therapy can help you reclaim your peace and sense of control. I specialize in helping people understand their OCD, reduce anxiety, and build confidence through evidence-based, compassionate treatment.
Blog Posts
8. 18. 2025
Infertility and the Silent Grief No One Talks About
If the words TTC, LH, two week wait, progesterone, HCG, etc. send you into stress-mode, this post is for you. If not, or you don't know what any of this means, I welcome you to stay and gain a new perspective.
Infertility isn’t just a medical diagnosis. It’s an emotional journey marked by a unique kind of grief. One that often goes unseen, unheard, and unvalidated by the world around us. This is what’s known as disenfranchised grief: grief that society doesn’t recognize as “real” or “worthy” of support. With infertility and pregnancy loss, the world often doesn’t pause. The grief is quiet, private, and deeply misunderstood. Yet, it is grief.
Anger, Jealousy, Resentment, Guilt
One of the hardest parts of infertility is trying to manage emotions that feel “unacceptable.” Jealousy. Anger. Resentment. But here’s the truth: feelings are just feelings. They don’t say anything about who you are as a person. They don’t make you ungrateful. They don’t make you mean. They don’t make you broken. They mean you’re navigating a journey that no one prepared you for.
So no, you’re not a bad person for rolling your eyes or feeling intense jealousy when that one girl announces her third pregnancy that just happened to be an “oopsie”. You. Are. Grieving.
If these feelings sound foreign to you, that probably means you haven’t lived them. You haven’t waited month after month, staring at negative tests. You haven’t sat through ultrasounds filled with silence instead of a heartbeat. You haven’t cried in bathroom stalls after a friend’s baby shower. And that’s okay. Not understanding is a kind of privilege. But please, if you haven’t been here, lead with gentleness.
Through both lived experience and therapeutic knowledge, infertility, loss and PAL is a huge passion of mine My hope is that you are reading this post and feel validated or you've gained new insight on what this world is like.
Therapy for infertility and loss isn’t about making the pain go away. It’s about making room for the hard feelings, exploring our values, and being committed to living a life that we can pour into despite the challenges of the grief of infertility. Maybe there's a younger version of yourself that is wounded by core beliefs of “I’m not important" or "I am helpless" that this experience has further validated. Yourself, both past and present, deserves attention and healing.
